Your partner has cheated on you, now what? infidelity’s aftermath can shatter an individuals world. We suggest you take deep breaths as we suggest a few ways to help you cope with the situation and find the path.

Having an extra-marital affair or cheating on your partner could happen due to various reasons, but whatever be the reason it emotionally damages the partner as it is an irreplaceable and irreparable act.

 If you’re someone who was cheated on by their spouse, try answering these questions before you think of what to do next?

 What was the reason behind this adultery?

After being cheated on it’s a given that you will go in a deep trauma but, there would come a time when you must decide what should you be doing either staying with them, separating, or filing a divorce? In that thought process, try learning the reason behind their illicit act. Were they emotionally or sexually dissatisfied? Had you ever cheated on them before and was it a revengeful act? Try knowing the reason and you would be able to cope up with this in a better way.

Is it over yet?

Before you take any legal step, try to find out if there is still any spark left between you and your spouse. Is it really over? If you still think your marriage could be repaired or if deep down you know your spouse still loves you, try forgiving them and starting anew.

Do they still care?

If you see that your spouse is terribly sorry for cheating on you, you may want to reconsider this case. If your spouse still cares about you, is overwhelmingly guilty and would want to rework the marriage, then give them a chance.

Will they cheat again?

Before you forgive, observe their behavioral patterns. You have known your spouse for long and you know if they really love you. You can tell if they would cheat on you again because of their behavioral traits. If they have cheated on you once, they might not cheat again; but if they have cheated on you twice, they would surely cheat again.

 Once you’ve answered all the above questions and have decided to stay in the marriage and start afresh, read these points to repair your relationship.

Act like you’re a newly wedded couple:

Things are terrible between both of you, but you still want to survive this. So, to do it keep all the pain and regret aside, start acting like you are a newly married couple. Go on dates, put more efforts, surprise them like you used to and chances are, you might find your lost love again.

Make bedtime a spicy time:

One of the common reasons for adultery is sexual dissatisfaction. Keep your spouse satisfied in bed and indulge in something different like role play, sexy lingerie, sensual massages, quickies, etc from time to time. Try making your sex time something exciting and not an everyday boring ritual. Spice up your bedtime!

Spend time together with kids:

Spending time together with your kids will remind you of how you were back then as a couple. You would reminisce all the love making sessions and would enjoy repeating that with your spouse. Being with kids will remind you of your importance in their life and that they need you as married parents and not otherwise.

 We hope you get a solution for your failing marriage and can rework the magic you once had.